Monday, March 26, 2007

Are You Addicted to Someone?

I was reading Mark's blog this morning, and his most recent post discusses an addiction that not many would admit to: addiction to a person. We hear of addiction to drugs, sex, gambling and other areas of life, but what about being addicted to a person?

I am just as guilty as the next person in allowing myself to form addictions to people. It's very easy to do, really. Earlier in my life, and not too long ago, I felt that I needed love, and I looked outside of myself to find that love. I can still revert to this from time to time, even today. Getting love from other people seemed to fill this void that I had created within myself, and when others loved me, it gave me a high. I sought what it was I thought I was missing from other people. When I felt that I was getting that something from someone, I became addicted to them, and relied on them more than I should have in order to continue receiving that form of love, affection and acceptance.

For one thing, this void does not exist. There is not a void inside myself or yourself that needs to be filled with anything. It is all already there. And that means that love is already there, too!

Feel the love that emanates from within!

11 comments:

Alexys Fairfield said...

Sophia,
Beautifully put. Your love flies off the pages of your blog -- and that's always nice.

Sophia said...

Thank you Alexys, I'm glad you can feel the Love. :)

Reiki 4 Life said...

not to use a double neagative here, but do you really Not think that a Void can exist in people? I do think a void can exist in people, but that they must locate it, find the root cause...like being abandoned or wounded in early childhood, etc. then work to repair it. Not from the outside in. But repair it from the inside out? And yes, everything we need to repair and mend those wounds can be found from within...but we must be aware of them first...and most times that is the hardest part.

Leighton Cooke said...

I think that the void is really the creative open space that supports us. Addicted to someone? Sophia, maybe, or Isis in her many manifestations.

Diana said...

Hi Sophia. When I was in my 20's I looked outside myself for love. I never thought of what I felt for my daughter's father as an addiction. I always thought of it as an obsession. I look back now and think, "how creepy of me".

Love is already there. So true. See your soul and you'll discover the love within.:)

Sophia said...

Hi Reiki 4 Life,

I do not have all the answers. I would have to say that we are already everything. Because we are everything, we are not missing anything. I believe it is simply the illusion that we are lacking something. It's much like wanting and needing love and acceptance. If we realize that we already love ourselves and accept ourselves, others will follow. We attract much of what we already possess.

Thank you for stopping by and for your input on this post. I welcome you to return. :)

Sophia said...

Leighton, perhaps when we think we're missing something, we're more driven. I know I was and still am!

I know that I'm supposed to have everything, and already all the answers are inside of me, yet I still seek until I find what feels right.

Sophia said...

Hi Diana, I've displayed some rather creepy obsessive behaviors in the past. I'm not proud of them but I look at it like this: the past is gone. I can not go back in time to make changes, I can only move forward and improve myself.

Rob said...

Great wisdom here!

Sophia said...

Thank you, Rob! So nice to see you on my side of the blogosphere. It's been a long time since we exchanged comments. Always a pleasure! :)

Mark said...

Sophia,
I know this comment is late in coming. I love your thoughts on this subject. If we could only all learn this lesson, what an amazing difference this would make!
Thanks for the link and mention!